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I don’t care about the love, I just want to know where the sanity’s at

March 18, 2011

Maybe it was my absence from the intertubes or my current state of mind, but it seems to me that all of a sudden, everybody’s… angrier somehow. We’re angry on our blogs. We’re angry on your blog. We’re angry on Twitter, on Facebook, on message boards. Even those who have foursquare are angrily checking in, “At shitty dive bar with 13 other douchenozzles,” and the responses from those who hate foursquare are more murderous than before.

The arguing over Chara-Pacioretty was bad enough without the Bruins fans sending Pacioretty unrepeatable comments on Twitter, or photoshops of Chara floating around, or a very badly timed, poorly thought-out t-shirt, or protests that nobody showed up to, or Bruce Boudreau talking with his mouth full, or, upon the news that Pacioretty might be able to return in 4-6 weeks, comments from Bruins fans saying he was faking the whole time, or comments from Habs fans that that’s too soon, or comments from people reminding said commenters that they are not doctors…

 Sens fans and Leafs fans manage to argue without any photopshops of decapitated defensemen or death wishes floating around. Except for those of and on Brett Lebda and Mike Komisarek, but I’m pretty sure those are by the fans of their own team. Enraged fans of their own team. I guess their fuses are short, too.

When we’re not fighting about hockey, we’re fighting about how much someone does or doesn’t care about the earthquake in Japan or the people in Libya, and the appropriate way to show one’s concern for the people affected. People can be concerned about Japan, and even donate to help the people affected, without once mentioning it on the internet and having it turn into an argument.

I feel like we used to be able to argue without sputtering vitriol everywhere, but I’m not really sure anymore. Is this what disconnecting does? Re-sensitise you to just how enraged everybody is over everything? Or are we just getting progressively more pissed about things? What happened to stupid internet memes that are sometimes marginally funny when they first start? Can we go back to those?

I’m not exactly objective right now, but all the yelling was starting to get to me a little bit.

Until I saw this tweet, Bitter Leaf Fan:

That tweet pretty much made my day week. That’s what it’s all about. Your kids. Your parents. Your significant other who’s probably infuriating you right at this moment but would do anything to make you happy. Maybe it’s your brothers and sisters. Habs fans embarrassing other Habs fans don’t matter. Bruins fans don’t matter. Fighting about whether or not someone cares enough about the people in Japan and Libya helps nobody. Constant outrage is exhausting, and there will always be something to be angry about. Maybe we should all put down the internet, go hug whoever matters, and come back later to discuss things without yelling, screaming, and bitterness.

I really wish my family were here instead of a 15-hour plane ride away.

9 Comments leave one →
  1. Matt permalink
    March 18, 2011 10:50 am

    I think you came back at a particularly ornery time in the hockey world. There’s a lot of bad stuff happening. I’m confident this too shall pass, and we can soon go back to arguing about whether first round playoff winners were good or just lucky.

    • theactivestick permalink*
      March 18, 2011 10:59 am

      If it’s Montreal, the answer is “good.”
      If it’s Boston, the answer is “lucky.”
      … Wait.

  2. Laura permalink
    March 18, 2011 10:54 am

    great blog – and something we all need to be reminded of once in a while. Thanks for taking the time to share it.


  3. Will permalink
    March 18, 2011 10:57 am

    Nice perspective. We do need to detach ourselves from time to time cause it’s so easy to get caught up in Twitter wars and whatnot and it’s easier than we’d like it to be to lose focus over what really is important. Now excuse me while I go check if my Die Chara, Die t-shirt has shipped…

  4. mbouf permalink
    March 18, 2011 11:41 am

    Another well written piece. This Chara-Pacioretty incident sparked MADNESS. I posted a Facebook status saying “get well soon patches <3" and within an hour I had 44 comments and a huge fight had broken out on my status with an American totally dissing French people and blaming their culture for the hit. Completely outlandish bull-crap that has no place in this discussion. If someone wants to sit down and maturely discuss with me why they believe Chara was rightfully unpunished, I will gladly listen. But when people start pulling out racism and immature comments just because they don't like Montreal or "frenchies" that's incredibly stupid and I have no time for it.

    Glad to see you're back in action again!

  5. March 18, 2011 12:13 pm

    Too true! It takes way more effort and energy to be angry and negative. Why do people bother?

  6. AngusMcCracken permalink
    March 19, 2011 10:21 am

    It’s sad but true. People don’t seem to be “happy” anymore unless they’re pissed off at someone. Why? Simple, really. Twitter/Facebook/FourSquare have created such an information overload, that unless people can latch onto something they can be passionate about, THEY HAVE NOTHING TO SAY ANYMORE. We know where they are, what they’re wearing, and how they’re feeling, before any conversations even begin.
    Remember when you would see someone for the first time in weeks, you could sit down and chat for hours about what they/you have been doing? These days, we feed each other this info immediately. So there’s nothing to talk about.
    So we become so hungry for conversation, that when a polarizing subject emerges, we latch on, and feed the fire to keep it burning so we have something, anything, to talk about.
    My best guess, at least.


    • theactivestick permalink*
      March 19, 2011 10:38 am

      Your best guess is a very good guess.


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